vreference wrote:
I went through the same thing recently when I started going out on windier days. I pretty much never cleat the main sheet and now I'm wishing 20-25mph gusts were sustained instead. The main sheet will give you a lot of control over heeling, small adjustments make a big difference and if an unusually strong gust comes through and you start to go over, just let go of it completely and the boat will pretty much take care of itself: you'll flop back down into the water. Just look down periodically to make sure the sheet isn't getting tangled up such that you can't release it when things get to hairy.
Sheet control plus steering up into the wind to help get things back under control - when I was still struggling I just tried to remember "pull to go faster" "release to get under control". Most of the time, both the sheet and the rudder need to go away from you to depower and be pulled toward you to go faster.
when you say go away from you with the rudder, are you saying push the tiller or hicking stick away from or the actual rudder blades?