I tried to respond to this via Tapatalk from my phone but no luck. In my opinion your issue is related to wind buffeting behind your vehicle rather than weight distribution or alignment issues. Based on the relatively non-aerodynamic characteristics of a Tacoma, the alternating eddys forming behind your truck at highway speeds is impacting the hulls of the boat thus causing your sway. The fact that this condition exists at highway speeds is telltale as air becomes especially unhappy when objects that move through it begin to exceed 50mph. Air drag increases by the square of the speed over 50mph thus airflow eddys attempting to equalize the low pressure area forming behind your car are colliding with your hulls in an alternating fashion. Unless you can change the aerodynamics of your vehicle there is not much you can do. Dropping the tailgate, if you can, may change airflows and may be worth a try if your trailer allows for it. A fun experiment would be adding vortex generators to each quarter panel of your truck near the rear- perhaps just ahead of your tailights. There are magnetic ones available from Amazon that you could just place on your truck when you tow. It would be an interesting experiment. Keep us posted with the results if you try dropping your tailgate or using vortex generators. The idea is that the vortex generators would cause air to corkscrew rearward rather than form big opposing eddys behind the vehicle. Let us know what you find. (amazon link below)
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